Someone help me..... please.....

Okay, I spend alot of time talking about my sex life and sexuality.  This post is not about that. 

Its about my son.  My sweet, sensitive, amazingly intelligent, horrifically troubled, insecure son.  He is the light of my life, and the reason I am still alive.  I can not imagine my life without that child.  He means more to me than anything.  I havent really ever talked about him, because I am trying to sift thru other things in my life.  But, I am in quite a dilemma in regard to him.  Usually my dilemmas with him are about school, or his inability to control his anger, and things like that. 

This is not that kind of dilemma.  I can handle those, for the most part.  This I just don't know how to handle. 

Out of the blue the other night, he asked me in his calm, but quiet, non chalant way "Mom, was I raped by "J###y" when Aunt K was watching me when I was little?"  I almost had a panic attack.  I honestly was so stunned I had no response besides, "why?"  He then tells me "I don't know.  I was just wondering.  Sometimes I think I was.  I cant really remember though.  I do remember him always trying to make me take naps with him.  And he would get really mad when I didn't or didn't want to."  Again, I didn't know what to say. 

My son is 12.  He was babysat by my Aunt off and on from the time he was a baby.  But mostly from like 3 years old until the year he started kindegarten.  At one point during that time, she had this boyfriend that was kind of a jerk.  But, he was relatively nice to the kids in the family.  But, the longer he was being babysat, his behavior became unmanageable.  He would explode and have these horrid temper tantrums.  It was believed it was just a discipline issue.  They never got better.  They got so bad, she would no longer keep him.  They have never really went away.  He is and always has been so attached to me.  He has even to this day, really bad separation anxiety.  It was decided he had ADHD, anxiety, depression and at one point, believed to be bi-polar.  He struggles with people in position of authority. 

A year or two after he no longer was being watched by my aunt, he finally told me that the boyfriend had punched him in the stomach once when he would not take a nap like he was told.  She had left my baby with him while she went to run errands.  That is when this incident took place.  My baby never mentioned this.  Until much later.  Not once.  He never even mentioned he didn't like this guy. 

I am trying not to freak out and jump to outlandish conclusions, but I also don't want to disregard it if this ass actually did mess with my baby. 

I was molested by my father's younger brother when I was like 6 or 7 years old.  No one believed me and no one wanted to talk about it.  They still don't.  He was never punished for it.  I still want to kill him. 

I am so afraid of how to handle this.  I am very afraid. 

If it was you, what would you do??????